😅 Life of divorced parents... it’s not what you dreamed of for your kids, it’s never “easy”, it’s not “normal” (what is?), it’s nobody’s fault or choice (definitely not the kids’) ... 😕
Our entire system isn’t adapted to this kind of situation... in so many ways.
You become a « divorced parent », you don’t choose to be one. You divorce a person, not your kids.
So, you don’t love or get along with the other anymore, but what of the beautiful children you once decide to have, to create together. They now have to go through all of the life stuff + all the difficulties that come with this new situation they did not chose for... Sometimes it feels so common and usual nowadays but in fact, it never is nor should be.
Having children together is the most important decision you’ll ever make. Please don’t just have kids because you’re « supposed to » or because everyone else does or because it’s the « logical next step »… Being a parent will be the most important “job” you’ll ever have, so prepare in the same way you’d do for a new job. Except this one is even more crucial & you can’t quit. So, really, think about it, make a SWOT analyse of your couple. And do think about “what if”. Because when (if!) something like that happens, you’ll not be able to think rationally and in everyone’s best interest. Though, you should.
Having kids is not mandatory, raising them with love is.
You don’t have to make children, you do have to assume the responsibilities that come with it.
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